Starting a conversation can be difficult. People tend to get nervous and have panic attacks just by thinking about talking with someone for the first time. It’s quite similar in the online dating world. Problems occur when we start overthinking. Like anything in life, the simpler, the better. That doesn’t mean conversations about the weather are a way to go either. The conversation is the best way to get to know a person, both in real life and in the online world. Knowing what and when to ask is crucial. Choosing the topics and questions will get you a long way.
Keep on reading and see what we’re talking about, it’s nothing complicated, but it doesn’t hurt to have all the information in one place.
It’s Not Enough to Just Say “Hello”
Of course, a person will start with a simple hello. Nothing wrong with that. Except for the fact that the other side gets a lot of those vanilla hellos. That’s a great recipe to be skipped in a person’s inbox. Use imagination and add a few more sentences to ensure a response from another person.
Hello, I noticed you took your profile picture in front of my favorite building in the city. I couldn’t resist sending you a message.
With those few extra words, a new world opens up. Now you can chat about that building, about the city or architecture in general. That’s a great way to break the ice and get a glimpse of a person’s interests.
Start Chatting with a Discreet Compliment
Whether one is looking for love or casual dating, the first message one sends to each person is crucial. To succeed on a random dating chat, full of singles, you have to learn how to flirt properly. Everyone joins a chat room to be seduced, but that doesn’t mean the same messages will melt their hearts (or other body parts). That makes sending messages blindly in a chat room pointless. Attractive members know how hot they are. They know it’s a casual chat, so they expect direct messages. Still, if those messages are tasteless, they don’t answer.
Overthinking the first messages isn’t a good strategy either. Procrastination is the enemy of success. While one thinks what to write to that gorgeous blonde, the other slides in with a discreet compliment and starts chatting. Finding a balance between sending a bunch of stupid messages around and sending only 1 now and then is the key to successful online dating. Send many messages, but send quality messages that get the other person hooked on chatting with you.
Try to Find Common Interests
Some singles like reading. They bond while chatting about favorite authors, novels, poems. Passionate travelers make connections while talking about adventures they’ve experienced. It lets them plan new adventures together. Even if they never make any of those plans happen, fantasizing will bring them closer together. Some couples like motorcycles, so they feel the chemistry the first time they chat about bike types. Maybe they both have the same favorite manufacturer or wish to take that new beast for a test drive. Finding a common interest opens doors for infinite possibilities. Dates can’t be boring if two people like doing the same thing. Figuring what that thing is might take more than a couple of messages, but a decent profile description speeds that up too.
Discover Your Strengths but Mention Some Weaknesses
Like in a job interview, it’s normal to talk about your strengths. A person is selling itself to another human being; it’s trying to make a connection and start a relationship. It’s easy to talk about our good sides. We all like to think of ourselves as great people. But, one does have to keep in mind that constantly talking about how good we are can be intimidating. While talking about ourselves, it’s recommended to mention our weaknesses. We seem more human, less perfect, doing so. People are attracted to a person with flaws, especially those they have. Be human and show both your strength and weakness.